Women love attention.
Women need attention.
Women crave for attention.
Most times it doesn’t matter who gives them that attention but women love being noticed that’s why they dress well or try to look good even if they are just going across the street to buy maggi. Attention to a woman is like saying “I am important to you”. Attention from her man will make any woman feel loved and appreciated. When a woman talks to her spouse about a problem she is having, in most cases its not for the man to proffer solutions but for the man to give her a listening ear (attention).
Therefore men, whenever a woman talks to you about a problem she is having just listen and keep making remarks like “hmmmm, ahhhhh, are you serious?, wow, you don’t say, really” until she finishes talking. Don’t tell her what to do about the situation till she says “so what do you think I should do?”. Then and only then should you offer advice but I can bet you that in most cases, she already knows what to do, she just wants you to hear about it. Let’s imagine a lady spends so much time in the salon making her hair, even if you are watching a football match, she expects you to leave the match for some time and notice her new hair before returning back to your match.
No matter how busy you are, you should always find time to check on your spouse and give her the attention she craves for. You need time to build any relationship, if you don’t have enough time for your wife then don’t get married yet.
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True-Love
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Thursday, 11 December 2014
Monday, 10 November 2014
101 needs...PT 3
A lady wants to know for certain that you care about her. Caring connotes caring about her to the smallest element of her life. This includes her well being, her family, her education, her career and many more. A lady is not supposed to want something and have to ask you all the time for you to realize that she wants something.
When women want something from their man, they give out clues to that effect. Its only sensitive men that care enough to pay attention to the clues she is giving out and get her what she wants.
For example, a lady wants a new phone, she will give her spouse clues like “baby, this my phone is not good, its always having problems, its always crashing, the battery is bad”. She doesn’t have to come out straight and say “baby, please buy me a new phone”. She has given you clues, if you can’t get her a new phone, buy a good fairly used phone. If you can’t get her a phone at all, then take her phone for repairs.
Caring to a lady doesn’t always have to be financially motivated, caring includes helping her with work, helping her with assignments, helping her get the groceries, helping her around the house. Ladies love men that genuinely care about them.
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When women want something from their man, they give out clues to that effect. Its only sensitive men that care enough to pay attention to the clues she is giving out and get her what she wants.
For example, a lady wants a new phone, she will give her spouse clues like “baby, this my phone is not good, its always having problems, its always crashing, the battery is bad”. She doesn’t have to come out straight and say “baby, please buy me a new phone”. She has given you clues, if you can’t get her a new phone, buy a good fairly used phone. If you can’t get her a phone at all, then take her phone for repairs.
Caring to a lady doesn’t always have to be financially motivated, caring includes helping her with work, helping her with assignments, helping her get the groceries, helping her around the house. Ladies love men that genuinely care about them.
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The Barbara Inspire Project
Tuesday, 4 November 2014
101 Needs....(Women) Pt2
PART 2: AFFIRMATION
Its not a secret that women are moved by what they hear while men are moved by what they see. A woman is unsure of many things in her life. She is unsure of how she looks, how perfectly drawn her eye brows are, how nice her hair looks and smells, how she looks in a dress etc-No wonder they are always with their makeup bags and mirror all the time.
A lady is also uncertain of her place in your life, of your love for her and if you value her above all other beautiful women. It is a man’s duty to reassure his lady with his words and actions. Women need to be reassured on a daily basis of how wonderful, beautiful and special you think they are. Don’t wait till her birthday, or your anniversary or even Valentine’s day to remind a woman of your love for her.
The Bible says in Lamentations 3:22-23 “The mercies of the Lord are new every morning” meaning yesterday’s mercies are not enough for today so God makes available brand new mercies every morning. We can relate this verse to reassurance as the compliments of yesterday is never enough when dealing with a woman.
You must learn to compliment her everyday and as often as possible.
For example, a lady spends 5 hours in the salon and you don’t compliment her hair? Now that’s a crime in my opinion. It is a criminal offense for a lady to spend so much time making up, getting dressed, brushing her hair and looking good for an outing with you for you not to notice and acknowledge her. Every time you have an opportunity to compliment your woman, take full advantage of it because it’s your compliment that matters the most to her.
When a woman cooks, make her feel like the best cook in the world. When she takes care of the kids, make her feel like the best mum in the world. When she takes care of you in bed, make her feel like the best sexual partner you have ever had and will ever want (for only married couples plssss..lol).
Wake up in the morning and say words like “I just love you, I am ready to wake up every morning with you by my side for the rest of my life, you make my life complete”. In the afternoon you spice it up with “baby, just called to tell you how much I miss you, how much you complete me, I can’t wait to leave this ‘boring’ work and spend time with my princess”. At night, you add it up a notch with words like “you are the air I breathe, you are the one for me, you make me the happiest man in the world, you make living without you seem impossible”. When you make your wife feel good, you will reap the dividends.
Words are powerful and even more important to women. Women are more sensitive to words than men do so never use your words to bring your woman down. Never ever use your words to belittle her! Never compare her with other women because she is the only authentic piece of her there is and will ever be. Always lift her up with your words.
Finally, here is a secret I always love to share. ‘Your woman will act the same way you make her feel. If you make her feel like your queen, then she acts like your queen. Plant love and reap love.’
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True-Love
"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Project
Its not a secret that women are moved by what they hear while men are moved by what they see. A woman is unsure of many things in her life. She is unsure of how she looks, how perfectly drawn her eye brows are, how nice her hair looks and smells, how she looks in a dress etc-No wonder they are always with their makeup bags and mirror all the time.
A lady is also uncertain of her place in your life, of your love for her and if you value her above all other beautiful women. It is a man’s duty to reassure his lady with his words and actions. Women need to be reassured on a daily basis of how wonderful, beautiful and special you think they are. Don’t wait till her birthday, or your anniversary or even Valentine’s day to remind a woman of your love for her.
The Bible says in Lamentations 3:22-23 “The mercies of the Lord are new every morning” meaning yesterday’s mercies are not enough for today so God makes available brand new mercies every morning. We can relate this verse to reassurance as the compliments of yesterday is never enough when dealing with a woman.
You must learn to compliment her everyday and as often as possible.
For example, a lady spends 5 hours in the salon and you don’t compliment her hair? Now that’s a crime in my opinion. It is a criminal offense for a lady to spend so much time making up, getting dressed, brushing her hair and looking good for an outing with you for you not to notice and acknowledge her. Every time you have an opportunity to compliment your woman, take full advantage of it because it’s your compliment that matters the most to her.
When a woman cooks, make her feel like the best cook in the world. When she takes care of the kids, make her feel like the best mum in the world. When she takes care of you in bed, make her feel like the best sexual partner you have ever had and will ever want (for only married couples plssss..lol).
Wake up in the morning and say words like “I just love you, I am ready to wake up every morning with you by my side for the rest of my life, you make my life complete”. In the afternoon you spice it up with “baby, just called to tell you how much I miss you, how much you complete me, I can’t wait to leave this ‘boring’ work and spend time with my princess”. At night, you add it up a notch with words like “you are the air I breathe, you are the one for me, you make me the happiest man in the world, you make living without you seem impossible”. When you make your wife feel good, you will reap the dividends.
Words are powerful and even more important to women. Women are more sensitive to words than men do so never use your words to bring your woman down. Never ever use your words to belittle her! Never compare her with other women because she is the only authentic piece of her there is and will ever be. Always lift her up with your words.
Finally, here is a secret I always love to share. ‘Your woman will act the same way you make her feel. If you make her feel like your queen, then she acts like your queen. Plant love and reap love.’
crédit: kurtishsith Wordpress
True-Love
"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Project
Monday, 3 November 2014
101 Needs.....(Women)
In This séries, I Will be discussing the needs of women.
AKNOWLEDGEMENT
Women are emotional beings while men are logical beings. Men are totally different from women in terms of how they think, act, talk and behave. No wonder someone once said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Women are very easy to understand but the problem men have is that they act like men and think like men when relating to women. To successfully relate to a woman, you have to act like a man and think like a woman. When men relate to their fellow men, they do so for information while women relate for affection.
For example, when a man calls a fellow man, you will hear something like “Hi John, how are you doing, I wanted to find out if you will be coming for the meeting at Eko Hotel tomorrow, alright den, take care, bye”…that’s a man calling for information. When a woman calls, the conversation goes like this “hi dear, how was your night, hope u slept well, what have you eaten today, how is work going”…that’s a woman calling for affection. When conversing with a lady and you think like a lady, then you will know that women talk for affection so you indulge her. You don’t just call a lady when you need a favor or you require information, you call her to check on her, to find out what she has eaten, how work is going, what she wore to work etc.
Another problem men have with women is the fact that they tend to treat their wives/fiancee/girlfriend like they would their mothers. The issue with this ideology is the fact that a mother’s love is totally different from a spouse’s love. A mother’s love doesn’t have to be reciprocated while that of a spouse must be reciprocated. For example, if you don’t call your mother she will keep calling to check on you. If you are a stubborn child, she will still love you. If you hate her, she will still love you. If you don’t take care for her, she will still love you. A mother’s love for her child is not controlled by emotions but by responsibility. The love comes from deep down in her soul not from her heart. On the other hand, the love your spouse has for you is totally dependent on how you treat her.
In relationships/marriage, you love to be loved. You give to in order to receive. She can’t be the only one giving for the relationship to work, you must give your own quota.
Another aspect of acknowledgment is detailed in 1 Peter 3:7 which says
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
When dwelling (in r’ship) with a woman, the Bible advises that you use knowledge. It didn’t say use your male macho, it said knowledge. It also says you should honor her as a weaker vessel. Weaker here doesn’t mean physical or emotional weakness, it simply means she’s softer, more fragile and less rugged than the man.
It also said that both of you are heirs together of the grace of life which means a woman has the same right to success, the same right to happiness, the same right to love, the same right to the good things in life as the man, it says that if you don’t treat your wife well, your prayers will not be answered. So the way you treat your wife determines if your prayers to God will be answered or not. Treat her badly and your prayers will be hindered (according to the Bible).
In conclusion, women want you to acknowledge that:
1. They are women and should be treated as such, not as you would treat your fellow man.
2. They are special in their own way.
3. They are not your mothers, so never make them feel inferior to her.
4. They are fragile and softer than men and should be treated with care and love.
5. Treat her the way you want to be treated. If you don’t love her don’t expect to be respected in return.
To be continued...
Crédit: kurtishsmith wordpress
True -Love
"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Projest
AKNOWLEDGEMENT
Women are emotional beings while men are logical beings. Men are totally different from women in terms of how they think, act, talk and behave. No wonder someone once said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus. Women are very easy to understand but the problem men have is that they act like men and think like men when relating to women. To successfully relate to a woman, you have to act like a man and think like a woman. When men relate to their fellow men, they do so for information while women relate for affection.
For example, when a man calls a fellow man, you will hear something like “Hi John, how are you doing, I wanted to find out if you will be coming for the meeting at Eko Hotel tomorrow, alright den, take care, bye”…that’s a man calling for information. When a woman calls, the conversation goes like this “hi dear, how was your night, hope u slept well, what have you eaten today, how is work going”…that’s a woman calling for affection. When conversing with a lady and you think like a lady, then you will know that women talk for affection so you indulge her. You don’t just call a lady when you need a favor or you require information, you call her to check on her, to find out what she has eaten, how work is going, what she wore to work etc.
Another problem men have with women is the fact that they tend to treat their wives/fiancee/girlfriend like they would their mothers. The issue with this ideology is the fact that a mother’s love is totally different from a spouse’s love. A mother’s love doesn’t have to be reciprocated while that of a spouse must be reciprocated. For example, if you don’t call your mother she will keep calling to check on you. If you are a stubborn child, she will still love you. If you hate her, she will still love you. If you don’t take care for her, she will still love you. A mother’s love for her child is not controlled by emotions but by responsibility. The love comes from deep down in her soul not from her heart. On the other hand, the love your spouse has for you is totally dependent on how you treat her.
In relationships/marriage, you love to be loved. You give to in order to receive. She can’t be the only one giving for the relationship to work, you must give your own quota.
Another aspect of acknowledgment is detailed in 1 Peter 3:7 which says
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.”
When dwelling (in r’ship) with a woman, the Bible advises that you use knowledge. It didn’t say use your male macho, it said knowledge. It also says you should honor her as a weaker vessel. Weaker here doesn’t mean physical or emotional weakness, it simply means she’s softer, more fragile and less rugged than the man.
It also said that both of you are heirs together of the grace of life which means a woman has the same right to success, the same right to happiness, the same right to love, the same right to the good things in life as the man, it says that if you don’t treat your wife well, your prayers will not be answered. So the way you treat your wife determines if your prayers to God will be answered or not. Treat her badly and your prayers will be hindered (according to the Bible).
In conclusion, women want you to acknowledge that:
1. They are women and should be treated as such, not as you would treat your fellow man.
2. They are special in their own way.
3. They are not your mothers, so never make them feel inferior to her.
4. They are fragile and softer than men and should be treated with care and love.
5. Treat her the way you want to be treated. If you don’t love her don’t expect to be respected in return.
To be continued...
Crédit: kurtishsmith wordpress
True -Love
"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Projest
Thursday, 25 September 2014
KEEPERS...
Im trying to answer a question a Reader asked which Is: what kind of guy should I retain?
Here It goes, Just a few Tips on character traits, attitudes to watch out for...
1. A kindhearted man...prov 19:22. Kindness makes a man attractive.
2. His heart must be right(God fearing). Truthfully speaking if an individual fears and loves God, with his grâce which Is sufficient- He/she would obey the Lords commandments- so You have less worry.
3. Find someone who Is always positive not pessimistic- this helps You get on with life's challenges easily.
4. Someone who Is cheerful not critical, judgemental. Someone who accepts life and its hurdles cheerfully Is already an overcomer as oppose to someone who does'nt.
5. Someone who Is motivated and hardworking...or else poverty Will be your companion. Hehe
6. Someone who makes You feel accepted at all times no matter your mistakes or shortcomings.
7. Find a Partner who Is ready to cooperate with You and make life Much more easier...dont Forget that a life Partner makes or mars You.
8. Find someone who Daily seeks to improve You....teach You and who is patient while doing that.
9. Someone who solves disagreements in love & respect rather than using sharp words, anger, harsh tone...Keyword Is corrects in love.
10. Someone who works at staying close together..who is available and présent in the Relationship.
11. Someone who Is flexible, open to change ..who does'nt force things on You but allows You to make the right décision on whats best for You as an individual and as a couple.
Read and think deep on this...as life partners can either make or destroy your destiny...CHOOSE WISELY.
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
TrueLove.
Here It goes, Just a few Tips on character traits, attitudes to watch out for...
1. A kindhearted man...prov 19:22. Kindness makes a man attractive.
2. His heart must be right(God fearing). Truthfully speaking if an individual fears and loves God, with his grâce which Is sufficient- He/she would obey the Lords commandments- so You have less worry.
3. Find someone who Is always positive not pessimistic- this helps You get on with life's challenges easily.
4. Someone who Is cheerful not critical, judgemental. Someone who accepts life and its hurdles cheerfully Is already an overcomer as oppose to someone who does'nt.
5. Someone who Is motivated and hardworking...or else poverty Will be your companion. Hehe
6. Someone who makes You feel accepted at all times no matter your mistakes or shortcomings.
7. Find a Partner who Is ready to cooperate with You and make life Much more easier...dont Forget that a life Partner makes or mars You.
8. Find someone who Daily seeks to improve You....teach You and who is patient while doing that.
9. Someone who solves disagreements in love & respect rather than using sharp words, anger, harsh tone...Keyword Is corrects in love.
10. Someone who works at staying close together..who is available and présent in the Relationship.
11. Someone who Is flexible, open to change ..who does'nt force things on You but allows You to make the right décision on whats best for You as an individual and as a couple.
Read and think deep on this...as life partners can either make or destroy your destiny...CHOOSE WISELY.
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
TrueLove.
Monday, 1 September 2014
Keys to Attraction PT 1
After my recent post on types of guys/men to avoid, someone asks a question on the types of guys to attract and how to retain...
First of all, I'd like to say that there are keys to attraction...before you get to that attraction stage...you have to build a mirror of the same attraction you so desire on yourself...you ask how do I mean?
Please note that we tend to attract the type of person that we actually are ie. We attract what we are, not what we want. So,the question I ask every girl/boy is would you be attracted to YOU and would you be interested in YOU?
Here are a few tips to guide you..to build and sustain attraction
1. Be true to yourself ladies/guys, make yourself better not a fake version of you, do things you have always wanted to do, try something new, add value to yourself that way you add value and share knowledge when you meet new people. Be You all the time, simple as A B C, drop all fake attitudes and forming...no time plsss
2. Develop power attributes: you can't exchange this with anything. Examples include: confidence, smiling: it takes just 6nerves to smile and a whole lot more when we frown. Be more approachable, Guys behave like gentlemen in all the right atmosphere.
3. Positive attitude and acceptance: this in my opinion is the sexiest weapon a lady can possess. Reach into yourself and pull out the you that privately looks into the mirror sometimes and knows exactly what she wants and how to get it..
4. Ladies pay attention to the way you dress. The way you are dressed determines the way you are addressed..this cannot be over flogged. Wear clothes that flatter not send the wrong signal. Men are visual creatures, their eyes send them the first message about you" so do you want to be the "rightnowmaterial" or "take-home to mama material". I guessed as much the second option.
5. Love yourself: love your neighbor as yourself not more than yourself. Bible talk am ...not me
Men don't appreciate women with low self esteem, lack of self confidence- they use such women but I guarantee you an independent, strong and confident woman turns any guy on. *im a bad gehl lik that * hehe
6. Have a life: desperate, dramatic and clingy relationships are often rooted in a feeling of need and desperation for a man to fill your life. You don't need a man to fill your life rather make your life so interesting that when a man comes into your life - he has no option going anywhere else. KAPISH!!! Pursue your goals, explore passion, do all the things you write in your bucket list and tell him about it *stickingoutmytongue*
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Friday, 29 August 2014
Health Matters Series: Happier Morning
welcome to the Friday Series; Health Matters. Here we discuss issues to improve on general well being, mostly to improve womens health.
What you do shortly after you rise and shine can determine whether you're going to be in a positive or negative mood all day long. Make sure that you start yourself off on the right foot by taking these happiness-boosting actions first thing in the a.m.
Get Chatty
You may think that keeping quiet while taking public transportation will make you happier—but talking with a stranger during your morning commute is actually a better way to brighten your day, according to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General.
Don't take a bus or train to work? Try striking up a conversation with the person in line behind you at the coffee shop, or while you line up @ the BRT stand.
Log on to Facebook
Here's the best excuse to check Facebook that we've ever heard: Browsing through old Facebook photos can help make you happier, according to a study out of the University of Portsmouth in the U.K. Take a trip down memory lane before you head to work to boost your mood all day long.
Listen to Music
You forgot your lunch, and your dress already has a spot on it. Turn your morning around by listening to upbeat music. A University of Missouri study found that happy tunes can indeed give you a pick-me-up. Looks like Pharrell is on to something!- one reason I love Pharrel's because I'm happy song...
Throw Your Bad Mood Away
Something as simple as writing negative thoughts on a piece of paper and then tossing them out can do wonders for your mood. Research published in the journal Psychological Science found that this exercise can trick your brain into disposing of those bad thoughts.
Wake Up Earlier
Believe it or not, rising earlier than you normally do may make you happier; a 2012 study published in the journal Emotion found that morning people are usually happier and more positive than night owls.
Eat Your Omega-3s
People who eat lots of good-for-you fats are more upbeat. Add some walnuts to your cereal for an omega-3 boost.
Starting off your day with omega-3 fatty acids is a great way to have a happier morning. Good for you fats include;oats, eggs, fish, apples, smoothies...
True-Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
What you do shortly after you rise and shine can determine whether you're going to be in a positive or negative mood all day long. Make sure that you start yourself off on the right foot by taking these happiness-boosting actions first thing in the a.m.
Get Chatty
You may think that keeping quiet while taking public transportation will make you happier—but talking with a stranger during your morning commute is actually a better way to brighten your day, according to a study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology: General.
Don't take a bus or train to work? Try striking up a conversation with the person in line behind you at the coffee shop, or while you line up @ the BRT stand.
Log on to Facebook
Here's the best excuse to check Facebook that we've ever heard: Browsing through old Facebook photos can help make you happier, according to a study out of the University of Portsmouth in the U.K. Take a trip down memory lane before you head to work to boost your mood all day long.
Listen to Music
You forgot your lunch, and your dress already has a spot on it. Turn your morning around by listening to upbeat music. A University of Missouri study found that happy tunes can indeed give you a pick-me-up. Looks like Pharrell is on to something!- one reason I love Pharrel's because I'm happy song...
Throw Your Bad Mood Away
Something as simple as writing negative thoughts on a piece of paper and then tossing them out can do wonders for your mood. Research published in the journal Psychological Science found that this exercise can trick your brain into disposing of those bad thoughts.
Wake Up Earlier
Believe it or not, rising earlier than you normally do may make you happier; a 2012 study published in the journal Emotion found that morning people are usually happier and more positive than night owls.
Eat Your Omega-3s
People who eat lots of good-for-you fats are more upbeat. Add some walnuts to your cereal for an omega-3 boost.
Starting off your day with omega-3 fatty acids is a great way to have a happier morning. Good for you fats include;oats, eggs, fish, apples, smoothies...
True-Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Monday, 25 August 2014
Types of men to avoid....
Types of guys you should Never date... general, women tend to rely on words, whereas men rely on actions. So, when men speak sweetly to women, women believe them, even if they don't behave accordingly. Men, on the other hand, see how women behave, and interpret the behavior to mean what they want to believe, regardless of what the woman says.
This discrepancy between words and behavior is especially problematic in marriage-bound relationships. So, watch out if your man is one of these five types:
The "help me until I'm ready" guy. The "need help" type is totally entrenched in his own insecurities. He only talks about his own problems -- never yours -- but he wants a lady by his side because it makes him feel worthy. So, he keeps her there by asking her to help him "until he's ready." But, guess what: He'll never be ready, and so, he is not husband material.
The "dare to discuss marriage" guy. Since he knows women believe in words not actions, he dares talk about marriage and future plans with you, knowing it's what you want to hear. But that's all he'll do; no further action is ever taken. There is never a timeframe for actions; actions are even never discussed, and if they come up, the conversation suddenly goes in different directions.
The "be my guest and discuss marriage" guy. This guy lets you do all the talking about marriage you like. He knows you dream about it; he listens to you discuss it in great detail -- where your home will be, what kind of furniture you'll buy, what kind of wedding you want. And when you ask him about dreams, he says, "Whatever you want, honey." Always look at his actions. If there aren't any, if he's all talk, he's not husband material.
The "bear with me" guy. He finds nice, logical excuses that seem acceptable. You know, he can't take action now because he's busy with his career, or his weight loss, or his parents' needs. You name it, and the statement is "Bear with me."
The "let's have fun first" guy. He sticks around for the thrill of the game. When the fun is out, he's onto a new adventure and a new thrill. He's not here for future plans or kids or family or even settling down and confiding in one woman. He wants and talks about fun and about sex. Whenever you talk marriage, the face changes, the fun ends, and the statement he repeats is, "You are spoiling the moment," hoping you'll eventually drop the subject. If you don't, soon he'll be out and about for another thrill.
Survival code: If u meet any of these guys, lady please I suggest you remove your shoes, hold it in your hands and girl:RUN...run like you are about to win a medal.*winks*
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
This discrepancy between words and behavior is especially problematic in marriage-bound relationships. So, watch out if your man is one of these five types:
The "help me until I'm ready" guy. The "need help" type is totally entrenched in his own insecurities. He only talks about his own problems -- never yours -- but he wants a lady by his side because it makes him feel worthy. So, he keeps her there by asking her to help him "until he's ready." But, guess what: He'll never be ready, and so, he is not husband material.
The "dare to discuss marriage" guy. Since he knows women believe in words not actions, he dares talk about marriage and future plans with you, knowing it's what you want to hear. But that's all he'll do; no further action is ever taken. There is never a timeframe for actions; actions are even never discussed, and if they come up, the conversation suddenly goes in different directions.
The "be my guest and discuss marriage" guy. This guy lets you do all the talking about marriage you like. He knows you dream about it; he listens to you discuss it in great detail -- where your home will be, what kind of furniture you'll buy, what kind of wedding you want. And when you ask him about dreams, he says, "Whatever you want, honey." Always look at his actions. If there aren't any, if he's all talk, he's not husband material.
The "bear with me" guy. He finds nice, logical excuses that seem acceptable. You know, he can't take action now because he's busy with his career, or his weight loss, or his parents' needs. You name it, and the statement is "Bear with me."
The "let's have fun first" guy. He sticks around for the thrill of the game. When the fun is out, he's onto a new adventure and a new thrill. He's not here for future plans or kids or family or even settling down and confiding in one woman. He wants and talks about fun and about sex. Whenever you talk marriage, the face changes, the fun ends, and the statement he repeats is, "You are spoiling the moment," hoping you'll eventually drop the subject. If you don't, soon he'll be out and about for another thrill.
Survival code: If u meet any of these guys, lady please I suggest you remove your shoes, hold it in your hands and girl:RUN...run like you are about to win a medal.*winks*
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Wednesday, 6 August 2014
TO DO....and YOU MUST
False, unhealthy beliefs about humans and relationships... In todays mémoire we bust another of this général beliefs.
My thoughts; I dare to say in keeping any kind of Relationship alive, There are key important factors which one must Never play around with.
1. COMMUNICATION
I am talking about deep level communication, one that Is open and constant, one that stimulates and builds up not tear down. In communicating; know that we are different.
Trick Tart: Remember that men and women communicate differently, so do not think he/she would talk to You about something the way You would.
Men tend to be linear minded; that Is communicate one subject at a time While women Can jump from one topic to another without Much trouble.
BOTTOMLINE: remember the différence between both of You.
2. BE WILLING; be willing to talk about everything. It keeps Relationship healthy and growing, when You communicate with an open mind.
3. LISTEN to each other: I find out that its so easy to get défensive thèse days. You think that your partner has done or said something to hurt You, so You Just shut down and withdraw.
Trick Tart: please take time to listen...
My Point Is Pay attention to communication in your Relationship today and make Learning how to communicate one of the Most important thing You do in your Relationship.
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
My thoughts; I dare to say in keeping any kind of Relationship alive, There are key important factors which one must Never play around with.
1. COMMUNICATION
I am talking about deep level communication, one that Is open and constant, one that stimulates and builds up not tear down. In communicating; know that we are different.
Trick Tart: Remember that men and women communicate differently, so do not think he/she would talk to You about something the way You would.
Men tend to be linear minded; that Is communicate one subject at a time While women Can jump from one topic to another without Much trouble.
BOTTOMLINE: remember the différence between both of You.
2. BE WILLING; be willing to talk about everything. It keeps Relationship healthy and growing, when You communicate with an open mind.
3. LISTEN to each other: I find out that its so easy to get défensive thèse days. You think that your partner has done or said something to hurt You, so You Just shut down and withdraw.
Trick Tart: please take time to listen...
My Point Is Pay attention to communication in your Relationship today and make Learning how to communicate one of the Most important thing You do in your Relationship.
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Monday, 4 August 2014
Wisdom and its outcome
My people...hope y'all had a wonderful weekend? I did.... So I was reading a wonderful book quotations.com; its a little book on lovely powerful quotes from famous people.
I was able to gather a few from the famous Leo Buscaglia...here is a little biography:
Felice Leonardo Buscaglia Ph.D. (31 March 1924 - 11 June 1998) was a professor of Italian descent at the University of Southern California, who authored a number of New York Times bestselling inspirational books on of love and human reticences on the subject, including The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, Bus 9 to Paradise, Living Loving and Learning, and Love. In lectures he often protested, in outrage at the comparative absence of writings on the subject, "I got the copyright for love!!!"
Here are a few quotes from him; thèse quotes are centered on love, life and Learning.
1. A wonderful realization will be the day you realize that you are unique in all the world. There is nothing that is an accident. You are a special combination for a purpose-and don't let them tell you otherwise, even if they tell you that purpose is an illusion. (Live an illusion if you have to). You are that combination so that you can do what is essential for you to do. Don't ever believe that you have nothing to contribute. The world is an incredible unfulfilled tapestry. And only you can fulfill
2. Time has no meaning in itself unless we choose to give it significance.
3. Love is life;and if you miss love, you miss life.
4. Love can never grow old. Locks may lose their brown and gold. Cheeks may fade and hollow grow. But the hearts that love will know, never winter's frost and chill, summer's warmth is in them still.
5. Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.
6. Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
7. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
8. Each of our acts makes a statement as to our purpose.
9. The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises.
10. Your talent is God's gift to you; what you do with it, is your gift to God.
11. The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
12. What you are is God's gift to you, what you do with yourself is your gift to God.
13. A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world.
14. If we wish to free ourselves from enslavement, we must choose freedom and the responsibility this entails.
15. There are two big forces in this world. External and Internal. This one we have little control over: external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.
16. I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate -- it's apathy. It's not giving a damn.
17. We all need each other.
18. If I don't have wisdom, I can teach you only ignorance.
19. Most of us are pawns in a game of love we don't understand.
Hope You Read and let the bug of wisdom bite You.
Enjoy
True love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
I was able to gather a few from the famous Leo Buscaglia...here is a little biography:
Felice Leonardo Buscaglia Ph.D. (31 March 1924 - 11 June 1998) was a professor of Italian descent at the University of Southern California, who authored a number of New York Times bestselling inspirational books on of love and human reticences on the subject, including The Fall of Freddie the Leaf, Bus 9 to Paradise, Living Loving and Learning, and Love. In lectures he often protested, in outrage at the comparative absence of writings on the subject, "I got the copyright for love!!!"
Here are a few quotes from him; thèse quotes are centered on love, life and Learning.
1. A wonderful realization will be the day you realize that you are unique in all the world. There is nothing that is an accident. You are a special combination for a purpose-and don't let them tell you otherwise, even if they tell you that purpose is an illusion. (Live an illusion if you have to). You are that combination so that you can do what is essential for you to do. Don't ever believe that you have nothing to contribute. The world is an incredible unfulfilled tapestry. And only you can fulfill
2. Time has no meaning in itself unless we choose to give it significance.
3. Love is life;and if you miss love, you miss life.
4. Love can never grow old. Locks may lose their brown and gold. Cheeks may fade and hollow grow. But the hearts that love will know, never winter's frost and chill, summer's warmth is in them still.
5. Don't smother each other. No one can grow in the shade.
6. Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.
7. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.
8. Each of our acts makes a statement as to our purpose.
9. The fact that I can plant a seed and it becomes a flower, share a bit of knowledge and it becomes another, smile at someone and receive a smile in return, are to me continual spiritual exercises.
10. Your talent is God's gift to you; what you do with it, is your gift to God.
11. The easiest thing to be in the world is you. The most difficult thing to be is what other people want you to be. Don't let them put you in that position.
12. What you are is God's gift to you, what you do with yourself is your gift to God.
13. A single rose can be my garden... a single friend, my world.
14. If we wish to free ourselves from enslavement, we must choose freedom and the responsibility this entails.
15. There are two big forces in this world. External and Internal. This one we have little control over: external forces such as tornadoes, earthquakes, floods, disasters, illness and pain. What really matters is the internal force. How do I respond to those disasters? Over that I have complete control.
16. I have a very strong feeling that the opposite of love is not hate -- it's apathy. It's not giving a damn.
17. We all need each other.
18. If I don't have wisdom, I can teach you only ignorance.
19. Most of us are pawns in a game of love we don't understand.
Hope You Read and let the bug of wisdom bite You.
Enjoy
True love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Tuesday, 22 July 2014
Follow Your HEART!!!
As I sip my cup of hot chocolaté this evening...I have decided to spend sometime for myself..my MEE time. I drift back to some years back after graduating from secondary school...silly me, I remember feeling excited about That particular Day because I considered myself a grown up and woop ...I was getting into the university, imagining all the good things coming my way.
First, I realised It wasnt easy gaining admission...as I had to study for JAMB. Now the real dilemna started when I had to fill those forms as regarding course of study, I could not figure out what I was gonna study as I was in the commercial department, meaning everything accounts, commerce, maths and calculation....how I hated all thèse subjects....oh Well I had to write another SSCE...this made me do subjects like Literature, which I was so good at.
I made a List of my fav subjects, likes and dislikes, this included- I love writing, annalyzing, Reading, tv presenting,exquisite designs and I hated, I still do* maths, calculating,statistics.....so I made a décision. I prayed to God and I ended up studying English in the university.. I came out strong with good grades and I dont regret That choice at all because I feel alive and I discovered serenity and peace in my being.
Moral lesson: "Change always brings opportunity". Without change, new opportunities wont présent themselves to You. If You want to live a successful life, make change your best friend. If You want to continue to grow, to move from one stage to the Next, to mature, to live out your dreams continue to embrace change. Do not be afraid; so Next time change looms in the horizon, smile and search for your opportunity!
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
First, I realised It wasnt easy gaining admission...as I had to study for JAMB. Now the real dilemna started when I had to fill those forms as regarding course of study, I could not figure out what I was gonna study as I was in the commercial department, meaning everything accounts, commerce, maths and calculation....how I hated all thèse subjects....oh Well I had to write another SSCE...this made me do subjects like Literature, which I was so good at.
I made a List of my fav subjects, likes and dislikes, this included- I love writing, annalyzing, Reading, tv presenting,exquisite designs and I hated, I still do* maths, calculating,statistics.....so I made a décision. I prayed to God and I ended up studying English in the university.. I came out strong with good grades and I dont regret That choice at all because I feel alive and I discovered serenity and peace in my being.
Moral lesson: "Change always brings opportunity". Without change, new opportunities wont présent themselves to You. If You want to live a successful life, make change your best friend. If You want to continue to grow, to move from one stage to the Next, to mature, to live out your dreams continue to embrace change. Do not be afraid; so Next time change looms in the horizon, smile and search for your opportunity!
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
Saturday, 19 July 2014
Life H.A.R.D Lessons!!!
Hey People, I was pondering hard on life all weekend and I came up with some hard life lessons.
1. Nothing is as It seems/appears to be.
2. Everyone/man always has a motive.
3. Vulnerability does'nt mean weakness.
4. Prayers indeed work and are been answered by the Creator.
5. Not everyone You love Will love You right back.
6. Fatherhood aiint Just about a man having the ability to deposit sperm in a woman's Bank but being able to carry the load of responsibility.
7. Love Can also die in the best top scénario.
8. All Is well That ends well.
9. Giants dont emerge by mère wishing; but by works.
10. That one Is breathing; does not mean That one Is alive.
True Love
The Barbara Inspire Project
"Barbie-doll"
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