MOMENTS I DREAD!!!

1. That moment when the hairdresser gives you the worst hairdo/haircut ever…
-You walk out the salon and meet your boyfriend
-He tells you your hair is beautiful
-You look at him with narrowed eyes and design an elaborate plan to break up with his lying ass.

2. Moments when your new boyfriend shows up at your house.
-Your dad comes in and starts asking him questions about world peace and the high pregnancy rate in unmarried couples.
-He also asks your boyfriend to solve this equation 5y-*2(y-p)+ 0y-±5a.
-DAD!!!!!

3. Moments when on your way to class, you notice everyone staring.
-You wonder what’s happening..maybe you look extra good today.
-3 Hours later, you discover your extra lacy thong was stuck to your bag zipper. So you had a nice thong scarf on your bag.
-#buries head in sand#

4. Moments when your watching a risqué movie or music video in the night and your whole family decides to wake up and join you in the sitting room.
-P.S… the remote refuses to work at this point.
-#raised eyebrows#
-Stupid questions like “is that a whip” start coming up.

5. Moments when you’re walking on the road and a boy calls you like this- siiiiiiiiiiiii
#stupid noise razz boys make#
-You say “your mama” under your breath
-The boy hears you and threatens to rearrange your face in front of a huge crowd

6. Telling yourself you’ll never kiss your ex EVER again.
- He shows up after 2 years.
-You guys kiss like you’re on the titanic.
-He tells you he still loves you
-You dump your present boyfriend and run to Mr Ex like a HUGE fool.
-You break up after 2weeks.

7. Moments when Chelsea fc is about to score a goal…
-The light blinks
-You look up in fear, offer a prayer and continue watching
- The keeper’s hands are stretched to catch the ball…..the light goes off, OFF NEPA!!!!

8. Moments when you sleep off in WAEC oral english paper or 400level maths finals and wake up 15 minutes to the end
- *Whispering fiercely*, “THERESA, PASS YOUR PAPER”.
-*Attempts to grab paper*

9. Moments when your Boli(roasted plantain) falls on the road.
-You look around…no one in sight.
-*Now bending down and picking it*.
- Suddenly you hear laughter.

10. You finish your assignment after 5hours of research.
-You put it on a flash drive and try to print
-VIRUS!!!
-You delete virus
-GUESS WHAT, the virus was ur assignment
-You go to your laptop to resend it….this comes up when you turn on the laptop xxxx@@@o?ac5sgvs@@@@vs vdgdyfhd ERROR 505
-GRRRRR….****!!!!!!

"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Project

SIGNS A RELATIONSHIP IS DEAD!!!

Do you feel like you're stuck in a relationship rut but aren't sure whether things will ever change? It's normal for relationships to hit the odd rocky patch, but if you experience three or more of the signs below and 'the chat' hasn't resolved anything, it's often a sign that the fat lady has sung and Elvis has well and truly left the building. In other words, it's over.

 Incompatible goals for the future

They say that opposites attract, but when you want children and your other half panics at the mere mention of parenthood, or your partner wants to immigrate to another country and you want to stay put, this kind of opposition can cause a problem. Whilst it's possible to work through such mis-matched goals and reach a fair agreement that both parties are happy with, sometimes it's hard to do that without thwarting your – or your partner's – dreams. Perhaps the most unhealthy thing you could do to your relationship at this point is try to persuade one another to sacrifice future plans in order for you to stay together. Not only is this selfish, but more often than not it leads to feelings of resentment between you and your other half, which often results in a break-up anyway. If there's no compromise and you feel as though your plans for the future are being jeopardised, it's probably best to part ways for the sake of freedom and happiness.

Sneaking around
The key to a great relationship is honesty and trust, so if your partner is sneaking around then it defeats the object of being in an intimate relationship and you need to tackle the problem head on. Go about it carefully though; following him/her into town to 'catch them in the act' only to find that they were purchasing your surprise birthday present could lead to all sorts of complications, and you don't want to risk being the embarrassed guilty party. Instead, it's a good idea to communicate with a secretive partner to make it clear that you've noticed they're up to something and you're offended that they couldn't talk to you about it. If you still feel like your other half is up to something, it might be a good idea to call it a day on your relationship as the trust barrier has clearly been broken.

No special gestures
After weeks or months of being wooed by your other half in the early stages of a relationship, when the dust begins to settle it can feel as though Cupid has disappeared off the face of the earth and suddenly you're stuck in a relationship rut. We're not expecting to be swept off our feet and taken away to an exotic island to be showered in expensive gifts, but many couples often lose sight of the small romantic gestures that make the relationship feel that bit more special. If special gestures are sparse in your romance, this by no means suggests that it's over; you may just need to make a little more effort to be romantic – suggest more things to do together and the problem should be resolved in no time. However, if after a conversation you realise that all romantic gestures have stopped because you no longer feel as strongly for your partner as you once did, this is a sign that your relationship should come to an end.

You can't seem to leave the past in the past

Relationships where the past can't seem to be left where it belongs are often a recipe for disaster. If you're having an argument, respond appropriately to what is happening here and now, not what happened six weeks ago. Granted – past issues can cause an underlying problem in the relationship if they are never spoken about, but once a problem has been addressed it's time to move on from it. It's a common deal-breaker in relationships to keep bringing up past issues during an argument to use as ammunition against your other half. If you can't learn to forgive and forget – or your partner can't learn to forgive and forget a mistake that you have made – then it might be time to cut all ties and start afresh

Constant Bickering
Arguing is a natural way to get things off your chest and emphasise what's upsetting or annoying you to improve your relationship in the long-run, but when things have soured to the point that you spend more of your time arguing than not, it's often time to raise the red flag. Healthy relationships are about having good conversations and being happy when you're around your other half, not constantly being surrounded by negativity and feeling angry or upset. Don't be tempted to stick together when all you do is fight; as easy as this is to do, you will end up feeling even more miserable in the long run.

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"Barbie-doll"

HOW TO BUILD A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

1. Olympic Spirit Olympic spirit is the spirit of competition. It has crept into many marriages where couples who are supposed to work as partners are working as rivals. Lovers now work as foes. They compete about building their own houses, buying cars and about winning the love of their children.

Solution: You are partners, don’t compete. You are lovers, don’t fight. You are companions, work in unity. Don’t ever see each other as competitors but as companions.

2. Lovelessness Husbands are commanded by God to love their wives and not be bitter against them. “Husbands love your wives and be not bitter against them”. Colossians 3:19. Love for your wife should be deep in your heart. When you allow her love to depart, you are making room for a difficult marriage.

Solution: Love your wife and don’t compare her with to any other woman. Verbalize the love. Tell her “I love you” often. Show the love to her by getting her gifts and give her your undivided attention.

3. Disunity Not walking as one, no fondness, divided house is the end result of so many negative things in marriage. United we stand, divided we fall. There is no place this saying is more true than in marriage.

Solution: Walk in love, walk as one. Stand together, stand as one. Stand in unity. Join your hands together, join your mind also. Have the same voice, the same vision, the same focus and the same destination.

Source: Foluke Daramola

 

"Barbie-doll"

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TIPS TO ATTRACT A WOMAN

Get a job
A busy man is a very attracted kind. When you have a job it gives you a certain kind of confidence that completes your masculinity. As a man, you want to be in control, and financial strength gives you the ability to be in charge. Women do not take jobless men seriously; and having a job doesn’t necessarily mean you are locked up in an office, you could run your own business – no matter how small initially as long as there are prospects of growth, and a healthy sense of ambition.

 Be a gentleman
A gentleman means you do not kiss-and-tell, you do not hit a woman, you do not lose your temper unnecessarily, you do not get drunk, you do not act out your frustration inappropriately. A gentleman walks out of a relationship with the lessons he has learnt and his head held high – he is not vindictive and doesn’t keep a grudge; he attends to the emotions of women with care and consideration. He doesn’t act like a tout or make certain decisions that would harm another person. Nature always honours a man of that kind because they are rare species.
 

 Look good 

Exercise. Lose the tummy fat. Wear cologne. Dress appropriately. Keep your breath fresh. Cut your nails. And smile. You can never go wrong looking suave. Like bees to honey, women will run towards you!

Be spiritual
Have the covering of God upon your life. There’s just something sublime about a man that knows God. It’s in his eyes, his thoughts, they words that come out from his mouth, his attention to details, the way he attends to crises… there’s a glow to his presence; it’s like a magnet that pulls the right people to him. And with God, he has a discerning spirit to make the right choices out of life. Not that he is perfect, but he is made whole – in God.

 Be the Head
A man who can fix things, solve problems, run his life properly and those in his care shows great maturity and he becomes wanted by women! Learn how to be useful. Men want women who can cook and take charge domestically, and women want men who can fix appliances and make lasting decisions that they (women) can put their trust in! No woman wants a boy who isn’t sure where his next meal is coming from or what the nearest future holds. Women want to submit to men who can direct their path towards a course that leads to promise.

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TIPS TO GETTING A GUY

10. Don't pressure him to marry u with questions like "Where's this leading?" Instead leave him if he's taking too long.

9. No matter what, never be rude or abusive to him in front of his friends. (Not even in jest).

8. Have standards. Or you'll find yourself in and out relationships too often and that'll earn you a bad name.

7. Learn to cook. Most guys like a girl that CAN cook. Yeah not all guys but MOST. So do yourself a favour and learn.

6. Don't give it ALL up. Leave some for marriage. Perfect the art of giving previews. Nobody pays for free stuff.

5. Make an effort. Try to look nice. Work out. Guys like babes. Get that Don King hair done, stop forming"Oh Naturale".

4.Drop guys that take all ur time without really chasing u. They block other guys. No IWC= Intimacy Without Commitment.

3. Be careful not to be TOO INDEPENDENT. Learn to gain from your man's presence in your life. Guys need to be needed.

2.Make friends with married women. They know what guys want more than your single friends (that's why they're married).

1. Learn to do solo trips. It's just easier for most guys to step to a girl on her own, than one in a pack of girls.

True love
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The Barbara Inspire Project

Many times we love someone but we aren’t sure if they are the right one for us. Love can be super confusing! If we want to be in a loving relationship, we must start by being loving to ourselves.
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something. They’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take. ~Anthony Robbins
Here are 6 questions to help you figure out whether you are spending time with someone who is a future soul mate or not.

1. Is he a happy person?

Some quick ways you can sense if he’s a HAPPY PERSON is to ask yourself these questions:
1.  Does he love himself?
2. Does he love what he does for a living?
3. Is he still in love with an ex?
4. Does he love the direction his life is heading?
5. Does he drink too much alcohol to escape his feelings?
When you struggle with your partner, you are struggling with yourself. Every fault you see in them touches a denied weakness in yourself. ~Deepak Chopra
Know this now: One of the secrets of a happy relationship is to be with someone who is HAPPY. If they’re not happy, then their lens on you will be negative – and/or they will be too codependent on you to create a healthyful relationship.

2. Does he want the same kind of relationship as you do?

If you both aren’t eager for marriage – then you’re a good match. But if one of you is eager and the other is not – then you’re not a good match – even if you are compatible on a day to day basis. You want to find a partner who shares your same vision of expectations for the relationship.

3. Would you want to hang out with this person?

Good looks fade -but a bad personality is forever.  A good relationship needs both a strong mind and strong body connection.

4. Do you like the smell of his skin and feel of his arms around you?

Love making is important to keeping a relationship fueled and moving forward – but another thing to look for is like the smell of their skin – the feel of their arms around you. I’ve found that a really strong soul connection is deeper than just an orgasm thing. It’s loving the feeling of being curled up in bed with your partner.

5. Do you have a good laughter life? 

A good laughter life is as important as a good sex life. A good laughter life together will get you through the tough times.

6. Do you share the same character values?

A lot of what makes for conflict in a relationship is when people have different core values on key issues like money, fidelity, communication, truth telling, generosity, the roles men and women play, etc…
This article was written by Lindsay Kriger. Lindsay is currently working on a book to help young women with relationship skills at a younger age, and she is writing about a wide range of topics- from dating, to self-esteem and boundaries and you can discover more about her by visiting to her personal website www.ifonlyiknew.tv

"Barbie-doll"
The Barbara Inspire Project